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How can we stop attracting the men that cause us pain?

  • Posted on November 15, 2017 at 12:55 pm
Balance On Purpose

As I starting writing this blog post I first off realised I NEEDED TO CHANGE the TITLE from “How can we stop attracting the MEN (or WOMEN) that cause us pain?” to “How can we stop attracting SEXUAL LOVE that cause us pain? Actually that feels a little uncomfortable and edgy naming “sexual love” but it is definitely more accurate!   It is more correct in another way too, because it helps us SHIFT AWAY from being in the victim energy which is all yucky and is about what is being done to us without any blame on us. It…

Living your soul’s purpose through your relationships

  • Posted on September 26, 2016 at 3:23 pm
Balance On Purpose

Are you following your soul’s highest path and purpose? Well let me ask you – are you living in balance in your relationships? Do they uplift you and inspire you? Or are you still walking a road  well traveled which is not your highest path and purpose? You may have “remembered” or discovered your soul’s purpose as you have moved forward on your own path of evolution. So you have found out more about yourself and what makes you tick creatively. But are you doing those creative ventures day to day? Or are you just thinking about them and doing them now…

How to find and get your Soulmate

  • Posted on March 19, 2016 at 10:18 am

Finding a Soulmate means

  1. Being able to be loved and loving them back in complete balance.
  2. Sharing romantic love so you can have not only a companion for life but physical love and affection in a beautiful way that brings you joy
  3. That life become so much more – more fun, more special than you could ever have imagined without your Soulmate.

Balance On Purpose

It does take work to build a harmony in life with another Soul, BUT not the sort of work that you might immediately think!

It takes work in the sense that you must be ready to meet the person who can be your Soulmate, and be ready to be inspired to live a full life.

AND you must work at being able to let go of old  relationship issues so you can “get into” your Soulmate relationship in that very moment when you meet them!

If you are not ready and haven’t let go of old relationship problems that you have, you won’t make the step into the relationship – why ever not you say? If you have just met the man (or woman) of your dreams what stops us recognising they will be great for us and stops us jumping into the new relationship and adventure?

Big reason #1 (I’ve done this reason a few times myself and know what it feels like!!)

This is being trapped by LOVE. We are kind and spiritual people who love to love and be around love. Being in a love relationship feels great as it is all about LOVE! But what if the relationship is not right for us? Maybe we are lacking in fun. Also it could be we are lacking in kindness from our partner or lacking in genuine affection. As a kind and gentle soul who wants everyone to be happy you will find it so hard to leave a relationship, and we feel as if we have to be in it forever. As if by saying yes I’m in an agreement and now I can never leave it…. even if we are unhappy with lots of parts of our life and with many parts of the relationship. We are not living life how we really want to but we feel we cannot leave the person. In fact we WANT to be in love and we even put all our efforts into making it work. Very exhausting!

Big reason #2  (I have done this to myself too but not anymore)

This is accepting into our life abusive relationships. Maybe physically but very often emotionally and mentally, because we don’t realise that we are accepting abusive because it’s only in the form of words and controlling our feelings and actions instead of suffering physical attack. We accept manipulation of our feelings and actions as par for the course so we do not believe we can be truly that happy in a Soulmate relationship. I was always more unhappy when in a relationship and felt freer when on my own, but I so wanted to build my life with a family that I kept persevering and gradually improved my own view on how relationships should be until I’d worked out I’d been accepting much less than a nice way of being treated by a partner!! In fact I didn’t recognise the Soulmate when I did meet him the first time because I was trapped by love in an unhappy relationship.


So here is what NOT TO DO to avoid these problems and attract and grab your Soulmate to you!


  • Don’t have indefinite time limits to resolve a relationship issue (or issues!) if you are unhappy.
  • Don’t ignore it if you feel you should be spoken to better, dont say just one more time and accept being made to feel horrible.
  • Don’t pretend you are happy if you lack romance and affection even cuddles and kisses.
  • Don’t accept separate lives! If you are always doing things on your own remember you could be doing them with your soul mate instead and having oodles more fun!


If you would like to find out and release the hidden causes of why you accept abusive relationships or go deeply into your past and past lives to resolve why you are stuck in love and can’t find your Soulmate then a Soul realignment* soul purpose reading is perfect for you. Click here for more details!


Love and light as always

Jennifer Smith

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